How Long Does A Sexual Awakening Take?

Just so everyone is on the same page: the term “Sexual Awakening” is used in many Christian Marriage communities to describe a point where a spouse who has been refusing (limiting sex in the relationship), or one who just has an extremely low (or no)

Mother’s Day is the Most Dangerous Day of the Year for Couples

Did you know that today, statistically, your marriage is at higher risk than any other day?  Tomorrow is the day after Mother’s Day, and if you have kids, and you didn’t make your wife feel appreciated for being their mother, then chances are, your relationship

16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger

There seems to be a recent trend of marriage bloggers (particularly in the CMBA) posting their “confessions” as a marriage blogger.  Most of them seem to be sort of “get to know me” points as well.  So I will attempt to continue the trend.  I

Why Don’t I Give My Wife More Massages?

The other day, I had a thought: Why don’t I give my wife more massages?  Seriously.  This isn’t a rhetorical question.  I mean, let’s think about it.  In my marriage (and I’m guessing many more), massages: Help her relax Help her transition from “mother” or

How do I get my spouse to do [blank]?

This must be the most frequent question I get.  Readers always want to know “how do I get my spouse to do …”, whatever.  It’s not always phrased this bluntly, there are a myriad of subtle variations (like this comment on my last post), but at

What does household leadership mean for the husband?

The Christian marriage blog-o-sphere is buzzing the last few months about submission, household leadership and respect within the family, and it generally revolves around these verses: Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife

2012 Annual Review

Well, 2013 has been here for nearly a month now and I had intended on doing a “year in review” type post for a while now, just never got around to doing it. It’s been a year and 5 days since I started this blog,

How Sex Impacts the Rest of My Life

We had a pretty rough Christmas break in 2012.  December started with everyone in the family getting colds, which, with 4 kids is a fairly regular event, nothing new.  We all got over it, except my wife.  Hers persisted for weeks.  She went to the

What Happened To Sex When Christianity Split From Judaism?

I tend to have interests that tend to borderline on are obsessions for short periods of time, sometimes a few weeks, sometimes a quarter, sometimes 6 months.  But the two main interests of my life are Theology and Sexuality.  Lately, I’ve been delving into Hebrew, I

What Is Your Goal?

I often read, in forums and comments, complaints from one spouse or another who isn’t getting what they want out of sex.  Sometimes it has to do with a very simple problem of the spouses not knowing each others goals in a sexual encounter (or

Book Review: Grandma’s Sex Handbook

I was really looking forward to reading this book.  The concept is amazing. This Christian family has a tradition, for 8 generations (at least, might be more), the grandmothers have sat their granddaughters down during their engagements and unloaded everything they know about sex to