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Making your spouse earn sex makes you feel like a prostitute

Making your spouse earn sex can make you feel like a prostitute

We see a lot of people in Christianity saying that men have to earn the right to have sex with their wife.  While I believe the advice is well-intentioned, and may even be practical, it is not biblical and it leads to some serious issues.

Why am I always the one who has to initiate sex?

This past week, we were having a discussion in our Uncovering Intimacy Champions group.  I won’t post the full start of the conversation because I haven’t asked if I could, but the gist of it was this:  How do you keep initiating sex when your spouse,

I'll never be good enough

I’ll never be good enough

When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship.  We had sex more often, and it was more varied.  We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion

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SWM030 – Credentials, sex and sickness, falling out of love, self control and how to start leading

Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so.  This episode I talk about my credentials,

Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

Every month, more than 1000 people come to this blog looking for information on how to introduce bondage into their marital bed or asking why it is that their spouse wants to be tied up.  Some of that is due to the 50 Shades of

Launching a Game on

My wife and I have been trying for the last couple of months, and it worked so well, I wanted to see if we could start a game as the Uncovering Intimacy community.  I know I have plenty of readers who are looking to be

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SWM029 – Fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives

Episode 29 of the podcast.  Here are the questions I’m answering today: Question 1 194 – My question is about lust. Here’s my problem. I absolutely adore my wife

Why do I smell bad (down there) after we've had sex?

Why do I smell bad (down there) after we’ve had sex?

There are many women who suffer from this condition, an unpleasant smell or odour after sex, sometimes for days or even a week afterwards.  Here’s a question about it from one of our readers: I have a question I have wondered about for years. This

How do I open up to my spouse sexually?

How do I open up to my spouse sexually?

Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage.  I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse

External events can stop a sex session from going anywhere

External events can stop a sex session from going anywhere

For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context.  This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress. Last night I pointed out