This week Christina asked me why I act differently when she’s changing, particularly when she’s topless. I’m sure most wives at some point wonder, why it is that their husbands are so obsessed with their breasts. I know for myself, if my wife’s shirt and bra comes off, even if it’s in a non-sexual context, I’m paying attention. I think most husbands are the same way. So, why is this? To be honest, I didn’t know, so I did some research.
The traditional view is that the effect is caused for one of two reasons:
The first theory is based on the idea that when you were a baby, your first source of comfort, of security, of food even was your mother’s breasts. When we grow up, this feeling is remembered and we then look to any set of breasts for feelings of comfort and security (we can manage food on our own). In a marriage, ideally you’d only be focus on your spouse’s breasts. The problem with this theory is that it doesn’t explain why most women don’t go a bit crazy/stupid when they see a pair of breasts. After all, they were nurtured in the same way. It doesn’t make sense to have such a disparity between the genders in their responses.
The second theory comes from evolution, that men are enthralled with breasts, because they show an indication of the general health and survivability of their offspring. Large breasts mean more fat is stored, which means the woman is better fed and more able to provide for a potential baby. So, men are evolutionarily programmed to constantly be looking at breasts, to judge suitable mates. The problem with this is that women with large breasts or small breasts can still provide milk to their baby. It’s not an accurate judge, and so, even if I believed in evolution, this argument seems to be flawed.
So, what is it then? Well, the new theory, one I think seems most likely to be accurate, is that men are predisposed (some will say through evolution, I would say by creation) to focus on women’s breasts, because touching them, playing with them, kissing, etc., releases Oxytocin in the woman’s body. To, in a marriage, the husband is constantly looking to find ways to release this Oxytocin into his wife’s body, because it will make her feel more attracted to him, more secure in their relationship, and more bonded to him emotionally. This of course is not conscious, but there does seem to be an overwhelming urge in husbands to be constantly trying to sneak glances, brush, touch, pinch, etc. their wife’s breasts. It’s so strong that if you are a husband, and your wife’s shirt comes off, our brain does a bit of a flip. It’s so focused on this goal that the part of the brain that is used for recognizing animate objects (people, animals, etc.) shuts down a bit and instead the part that recognizes inanimate objects turns on. We become so focused on our wife’s breasts that on some level, we don’t even recognize that their attached to a person. In short, we can’t help ourselves, our brain literally short circuits.
Now, some wives might find this offensive, that they are literally being treated like sex objects. But it’s unconscious. If you’re going to take into account that we see you as an object when your shirt is off, you also have to take into account that the underlying obsession has to do with wanting you to feel loved, bonded and secure, which is kind of romantic, isn’t it?
I agree with that last theory! 🙂
Yeah, it seemed solid to me.
I can’t disagree. I was a bottle baby and my mother was very cold and distant emotionally and physically (no hugging, ever), but I am still drawn every day to my wife’s breasts, even though her body has suffered the effects of having babies and aging over 4 decades together, and gravity has taken its toll.
It still freaks her out when my mammary radar kicks on, but at least now I have a plausible explanation!
Will, I wonder if you would consider using some different terminology when describing your wife’s body: she celebrates the effects of having babies and loving me through four decades of marriage… Terms such as “suffered” and “toll” can evoke insecurity.
Yeah, I was just thinking the same. We always need to be actively working to build up our spouses, both in their minds, and in our own. Using positive words and phrasings help that.
How do you get your spouse to build you up more? I have point blank come out and said that I don’t feel attractive and would like more of that but, nothing comes of it. I know I can’t demand it. But it definitely makes me feel even less attractive when it doesn’t happen or since he doesn’t know how to respond he just walks away. 🙁
It’s quite possible he doesn’t know how, that it’s never been modeled for him in his own life. You might need to be more specific, give him examples, and make sure you encourage him and thank him when he does actually do it.
Good advice. Thank you.
I think breasts are a pre-programmed search image for men. Many animals have an in-built search image that allows them to find food and mates. They don’t learn this behavior, although it can be modified by experience and preference. I suspect that men liking breasts is much the same thing. They have a search image built in to their brains – triggered by testosterone at puberty, I suspect – that causes them to focus on breasts when they see them.
Men are more visually set up respond. And breasts are the most visibly contrasting physical distinction between the sexes, besides longer hair and makeup. Women like the admiration they get for their figure. Too many of them set their personal standard of how much of their figure should show in public by imitating movies and TV, which becomes a distraction for us guys.
So do husbands really still like them after babies have taken their toll? I’ve had 5 kids, my breasts no longer have tone, they’re soft and saggy. They don’t keep shape when I’m laying down during sex. I find it hard to believe my husband that he still likes them, especially when he always notices other woman’s breasts in movies or real life. Women who have firm round breasts, that look much better in a bra or swimsuit then mine ever will again(without surgery).
We have 5 kids as well, all with extended breastfeeding (so far, we just had our 5th). I can personally say I still not only like them, but are completely driven to distraction by them.
Sure, there are other women’s around, but there are studies to show that people who are happen in their relationship don’t notice them as much as those who aren’t. Also … well, my wife’s breasts are accessible to me, the other’s aren’t, so why waste time on them.
Jay, how might you rephrase this sentence to build up your wife? As is, it could be interpreted to mean you feel you must settle for your wife and her breasts. “my wife’s breast are accessible to me, the other’s aren’t, so why waste time on them”
I saw it as a positive already. There is no woman who has more attractive breasts to me. I don’t think I’ve ever looked at a woman and thought “I wish my wife had breasts like hers”.
Good for you! My husband has criticized and teased my breasts. They are smallish. He likes full breasts. He isn’t distracted by them unless he chooses to be. He has see hundreds if not thousands of breasts in print, film, and real life. Mine aren’t the only breasts he has handled. I am thoroughly convinced he is not happy with them. He has told me that he doesn’t want me to have surgery but if I woke up with naturally larger breasts he would be happy.
Yes, breast handling does release oxytocin, but he isn’t really into my pleasure. My breasts are the only ones he can handle, but other breasts to view release dopamine in him, so what’s so special about mine?
He also said he wouldn’t miss them if I lost them to cancer.
That’s how I took it as well, that you’re only captivated by her breasts because they’re accessible.
If I ask my husband, he’ll feel like he has to say he prefers mine, but why look at other woman’s breasts then and make comments about them? I don’t want him to like my breasts just because he can touch them, while he’s keeping the secret of wishing they were firmer.
My apologies, that was not what I meant to imply. I have never wished they were anything other than what they were. The fact that they are my wife’s is what makes them attractive. That’s what I meant to convey. I believe our standards should conform to our spouse, rather than judge our spouse by some other standard.
“The fact that they are my wife’s is what makes them attractive.” I hear love and adoration in this statement. The term “accessible” in your former comment made me wince and grimace. And I heard your last sentence as “if those other breasts were accessible it would be worth my time looking and…”
It took me a long time to learn that the reason my husband loves my body is because he loves me. I knew you meant to convey this–that’s why I asked you to consider rephrasing. 🙂
What the rest of us think doesn’t matter. You flaunt them and offer them to your husband willingly with a smile and I’m pretty sure he won’t care about the wear and tear! 🙂
Well in support of your post, my wife and I have been married 40+years and I’m still in love with her and her breasts. She’s had 3 kids and hers also sag, but you know what, she’s still the same girl I married back then even though her boobs were more firm, I still get arOused by seeing her topless and even naked. She still enjoys me looking at her and handling her and we still have a good sex life regardless of the changes over the years. I guess, aside from her changes I also have changed and she gets aroused by me getting naked as well as the attention I give her. And her breasts are still responsive and her nipples still get hard. We guys see you women differently than you see yourself, and we like what we see regardless of your changes. I’m always complimenting her and her figure, breasts included. When I kneel in front of her to give her “tittie time”, I cup them, and push her breasts up, then they look more like they used to and she still has nipple orgasms. So if she lives to be 100 I’m sure that I will still find my wife to desirable just as she is now at 70. I am a retired RN and I’ve seen a lot of naked women body types and naked breasts through my work. But I still come home to my wife and her body. And I’m still aroused by her. I don’t want anyone else, I love her and still feel like a horny teenager when I’m around her.
I just read your post… WOW ,, It’s good to know that there is someone who feels the same way I do. I could not have said this any better. I was not in the medical field but was in the industrial sector all my life and have seen hundreds of picture of naked breasts and I feel the same way about my wife as you do about yours. We are in our 70’s and I love Her and her breasts as much now as when I was 20,, and they are just as much Fun,, maybe more!!
How do you explain some men not even noticing their topless wife?
Could be a lot of reasons. To think of a few off the top of my head.
Porn use
Low testosterone
Bad relationship
Blind
It’s also possible he’s just not as visually stimulated as other men. Remember, we can only work with “on average”, “most likely” and “tends to”. Not every guy fits the stereotype.
And sometimes we notice, but act like we don’t, because we’re afraid of the reaction, of being thought of as a pervert (even if it’s your wife), or objectifying her.
I guess I’m saying there are plenty of reasons, and I don’t know which in your case.
I’ll add to that, pretending not to notice out of fear (or expectation) of being rejected for sex. Even if you are not asking for sex. Ex.. she’s changing, he notices, comments, or perhaps even playfully touches; she covers them up or backs away, or gets angry = rejection.
Right, and that’s the start of a dangerous pattern. If it continues, he won’t show any attraction at all, and then she’ll think he’s not attracted, which will make her withdraw, and then both are withdrawing. Much better when we follow the Biblical example:
I (the wife) am the one being rejected and not noticed. He’s says that it doesn’t occur to him to show attraction. However it is obvious when he is attracted to other women.
It also depends on the type of attraction–physical or emotional. My wife craves the emotional attraction such as acts of kindness, words of encouragement and affirmation, etc. However, she has very little craving for physical attraction beyond hugging and kissing. I have learned to avoid showing attraction to her body and she goes to great length not to show her nakedness to me when getting ready for bed.
In response to Cait. Your husband would probably like it better if you were more busty than his mom. I know my former husband and mother in law did. (See my reply,March 21,2017)> That was the only thing my in laws liked about me. Anon, Intimacy Seeker, Teresa, libbi you might want to consider it too that your husbands want you to be more busty than their moms and nothing better than that.
I do well understanding that passage as caring for one another’s bodies. My body is not my husband’s for him to do things to, but for him to care for. And his is mine to care for. A different concept than is quite often gleaned from this verse.
One way husbands can care for their wives’ bodies is to refrain from ogling other women, which can make wives feel inadequate and insecure. Another way is to tell her she is beautiful, and tell her often. She faces opposite messages all day, every day, from birth til death.
Boobs make everything better. 🙂 I don’t know why men love boobs, but I’m starting to like the fact that my husband likes mine.
Keelie, Yes please keep encouraging your folks to “flirt in their marriage.
If you have the time – check out my post in the Good Men Project – 7 Ways to Help Increase Your Spouse’s Self-Esteem http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/7-ways-to-help-increase-your-spouses-self-esteem-kcon/
I know that I’ve been captivated by my wife’s breasts for the last 20 years and I’ve never once gotten tired of seeing them or touching them. She’s asked me a a few occasions why I like them so much and if I ever worry that they aren’t as great as they were 20 yrs ago and I’ve told her many times over the years that to me they are perfect just as they are.
I guess ‘Because they are big, soft, yummy and beautiful’ would have been too short of a blog post.
Yeah, “Booobs! *drool*” would have been too. I’m trying to be slightly more articulate than my 4 month old. 🙂
I would have just said, “boobs rock” end of post. 😀 Seriously though, I am planning to do a blog post that is basically a question and answer time with me. I just can’t make a whole blog post out of some stuff. For you it would be like:
why do men like sex? Duh
why do men like boobs? seriously? Double duh. 😀
Because boobs are awesome?
Linked here.
I have known forever that my husband loves my breasts. I’m in my 50’s and he still goes crazy for them. He tells me I’m that million dollar babe because I am available to him at anytime. He told me a long time ago that it’s my positive availability that is so enticing and sexy to him. Let’s face it…God designed husbands to be wired differently. Celebrate that difference.
The exciting part of all this is that a husband should desire his wife, all of her. We have been married forty one years and I still get a “charge” out of seeing my wife naked.
I support her sensitivity issues and encourage her self image as often as I can.
We fellows “for the most part” as you said Jay Deer, are drawn to one part of our wife’s body more than another.
God made us that way. He also made women very sensitive to how we speak of those “parts”. It was curious to read through the comments and see how often other women got upset at some of your words when you were trying to simply share your heart.
Thanks for tacking such a wonderful subject that we husbands go “ga-ga” over!
I’m very aware that my husband adores my breasts. He is constantly asking me to wear tops that are low-cut or loose, so when I am close to him, he can reach into the top and touch my breasts. I am very flattered by his attentions to “my girls” as he calls them. He likes to squeeze and pinch them, tho sometimes I have to ask him to be gentle as my breasts can’t handle the roughness like they used to be able to
I commend you Teresa for your attitude towards you husband sexuality. Many Christian wives have shamed their husbands for wanting to see their wife in low cut tops and wanting to enjoy them outside the bedroom. You have truly blessed your husband!
Be modest in public. That is win-win-win. Win for the couple, their neighbors, & for our amazing Creator.
Jay D you hit the nail on the head. I think we really need to consider how breasts can be such a big part of God’s design to keep men and woman healthy… and sexually satisfied. Proverbs 5:18-19 has some real wisdom for us. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Breasts are a huge part of ravishing love and soul satisfaction. Ravish is to fill (someone) with intense delight; enrapture. synonyms: enrapture, enchant, delight, charm, entrance, enthrall, captivate. Ravish is about emotional satisfaction which speaks of much more than sexual release.
Last evening I crawled in bed dead tired but she had on the leopard print baby doll I had hung where her favorite nightie was and after we talked awhile, I slid my hands over her breasts and then sucked them for 15 minutes and of course by that time I was seriously charged up. She crawled on top and we had rapturous sex and I was not planning on that. Here’s the deal. Her breast are very average in size, they are not all that sensitive, she does not really even enjoy me sucking them. They nourished 10 babies (and I always greatly enjoyed sharing the milk supply and wish I would not have ever let her dry up.) I massage them almost daily for a while I suck one and she gets touched all over. This warms me (and her) up as they are enticingly beautiful to me and taste better than the best dessert.
Breast play is very good for breasts and very good for a marriage. Sorry for the TMI but it is something we found very useful to enhance a sluggish sex life even if you are both 57. Her breasts are as beautiful now as ever and really a very important part of good sex. I would order bigger ones if it was that easy but they are mine and I have enjoyed so much and they do not age much but even if they did I would enjoy them.
Oxytocin is way more important than orgasm but one intensifies the other if that is what you want and extended breast play will be powerful for your love life. God provided this perk for both sexes to enhance intimacy and love and health. Men were created with a knack to keep breasts healthy but it must be done with all due respect and gentleness. If the wife shows appreciation for the husband’s gentle handling this greatly enhances the experience. Not wearing a bra is also healthy for breasts and should be considered by more wives and research has shown that they stay perkier without. It can be done without being an undue distraction. Breast cancer is a big issue!
I definitely don’t agree that breasts are meant to be as sexual as people want them to be. I sure don’t sexual breasts like a lot of people do and would never want to. They’re milk glands and not sex toys.
And a penis is a urine-expulsion device only? Or a vagina only for carrying babies? I think God intended for them to be sex toys, so, why not breasts?
Plus, if He had any revulsion at us seeing them as erotic body parts, He made a mistake while inspiring Solomon to write Song of Sons.
They can’t be both?
You lost me at “I would have ordered them bigger.”
My hubby once “jokingly” complained about my more demure size. I told him he could have married someone else with bigger jugs. He married me. I can’t help their size but he has free reign over them. If he doesn’t like it, take it up with God.
Why does every compliment come with a punch in the gut disclaimer from guys? Her boobs are great, but you wish they were bigger?!
That’s like my husband saying, “honey, you did a great job! I wouldn’t have done it that way, but you did all right in the end.”
“Dinner was great….once I put salt on it.”
Why can’t out bodies be wonderful just the way they are without the disclaimers of “despite wear and tear” “the only body accessible to me”?
I don’t go around saying, “my hubby is sexy. But if I had my druthers, I would have ordered a bigger penis.”
Thank you, libl.
I know that even though I am married (ecstatically married) I love my wife to distraction, but I will still notice other women’s breasts. I don’t ogle them, I don’t pant, drool, or make comments, and I just notice them. I do notice my wife’s a lot more than I notice others. And, like Jay, every time the shirt comes off the rest of the world seems to disappear.
Now, as to size, I like all sizes, small, medium, and large. Depends on the woman they are attached to. My ex’s were smallish, at the time I was attracted to them; my wife’s are on the larger end of the scale and I love them. Some look good small, some look good large, I can even say that some look bad large, especially the ones that are obviously fake. Not a fan of fake, small and real beat big and fake all the time.
But I do have to say “Breasts, proof that a man can concentrate on more than one thing at a time.”
Here is what I have gleaned from all this conversation:
My husband loves breasts in general because God designed him that way.
My husband notices other breasts and struggles with dwelling on those mental images. (BTW, I am not responsible for “fixing” that–also God’s design).
My husband loves my breasts especially because they are accessible.
My husband loves my breasts most especially because he loves me.
My husband may not articulate these feelings in ways such that I can easily understand his intent.
My husband has incredible power to bless me with his words of affirmation.
My husband has incredible power to injure me with words of criticism and comments that objectify women.
There are some conservative Christians who consider man’s obsession with breasts as a weakness that can be easily exploited by Satan. How many Christian leaders have fallen from grace due to sexual scandals? I have many days when I wished that my sexual desire would diminish so I can avoid sexual sin…
I don’t the obsession is a weakness. I think the lack of self-control is. In general, our society has a lack of self control, and unfortunately, it makes things appear sinful that are not. It’s our inability to moderate our lives that I think is a core problem.
With all due respect to “sympathy seeker”, I believe that you have misinterpreted I Corinthians 7:4. When this passage is viewed within it’s context, Paul is clearly speaking of the sexual relationship between husband and wife. Why else would he say in the following verse: “Do not deprive one another except with consent (mutual) for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come together again so that Satin does not tempt you because of your lack of self control.” Paul’s use of the phrase “lack of self control” and warning about Satin’s tempting powers would not be used If he were simply speaking about a general caring for one another’s physical bodies would it? The “authority” that God has given husbands and wives over each other’s bodies is for the sake of fully enjoying each other in a monogamous sexual relationship.
I meant caring for one another’s sexual wellbeing and fulfillment. Read more about this under the BIBLE tab at themarriagebed.com.
To introduce myself, when I went to school we had nine planets. I was born before WWII in the US.
I don’t believe it’s any of the above, I feel we do it to ourselves. There are things that appear to be inborn (God given) such as the male being attracted to the shape of the hips, buttocks, and the V of the pelvis but I think we create the desire to look at breasts beginning as soon as they start to appear. I grew up in a small New England town on a street outside of town where I only had girls for playmates, two of them. In the summer we played in the lawn sprinkler in back of my house. We didn’t have bathing suits just underwear. You know what happens to cotton underwear when it gets wet — it ends up around your ankles so we spent most of our time wearing nothing. We were completely comfortable with that except that we knew we needed to hide it from our mothers as they freaked out when they saw us and would come out to make us put them back on.
That hiding thing just seemed to grow as we got older. As soon as the girls breasts began to look larger than mine they were forced to hide them, especially from me as I was one of those dreadful things — a boy. At the same time boys were made to feel it was dirty to look at or even appear to want to look at those unusual decorations God put on girls. So we certainly create a strange attitude toward breasts that I don’t feel has anything to do with God. Americans in particular seem to be scared of breasts, just look at the Janet Jackson fiasco. Most of the rest of the world was laughing at our reaction to that. Movie makers often have to make two versions of their film. One for most of the world and a separate one for the US that has any breasts removed.
As a result we have this nagging feeling that it’s dirty to look at breasts, even at home and the female partner feels she has to hide them or at best has conflicting feelings about him looking at her.
God did make breasts sexual, though, as well as functional, and in a way I am glad He did. Having my breasts exposed, admired, and touched by my husband gives me such thrills and enjoyment I wouldn’t have if they were just accepted the same way a man’s chest is.
I agree with you on the first part but I’m not so sure you wouldn’t get just as much pleasure from your interaction with your husband if it was OK to expose them to the rest of the world. Those are two different things, the rest of the world isn’t having a personal relationship with you.
If you watch one of the TV shows where the host (usually a female) gets some hunk of a guy to expose his chest you hear all manner of howls from the girls in the audience. It seems pretty obvious that women certainly find a mans chest quite attractive so why isn’t the woman’s chest equally available for men to view? You certainly know we find it very attractive yet you want to make us into perverts for enjoying the view. It was my wife’s chest that turned me on, not some other girl I saw somewhere else. She had tiny breasts that were so pretty and sexy I was not interested in interacting with anyone else’s. The only thing that spoiled it was her inability to feel like you say you do when your husband admires and touches you which I believe was caused by our early upbringing forcing girls to hide them — especially from boys. That’s just backwards from how you really want to feel. You are so lucky to be able to enjoy that.
That’s your opinion only. There’s no rule written in stone that God intended breasts to be so sexual.
Well, we only have 10 commandments literally written in stone…and most Christians have thrown out at least 1, so that’s not much of an argument.
If you mean figuratively, I think Proverbs 5:19 is fairly strong.
Song of Songs 4:5 also seems to indicate that Solomon found them sexual.
As well, the Bible teaches that nature contains God’s wisdom as well, and breasts are an erogenous zone, thanks to all the nerve endings. Seems like God made a rather large mistaken in designing us if He didn’t want us to think about them sexually.
I’m not sure why you’re so against the idea of breasts being sexual, you wrote two comments along this line.
I replied twice because I wasn’t sure if my first comment was posted. And I disagree with with the fact that they have to be sexual because as I said, I believe in naturism and I don’t believe the body has to be sexualized all the time. In sex anything can be sexualized, including the ears or toes if you want to. And proverbs didn’t actually mean them as sexual objects, it meant that a man should just love his wife. This is an opinion thread and I respect everyone’s right to disagree, but I don’t believe women should be criminalized for showing a breast at beaches or certain other places. People don’t need to be so over sexualized that they can’t control themselves. Breasts can be attractive like any other body part, but that doesn’t mean they have to be constant sex objects.
Who said “constant sex objects”?
Just because they don’t always have to be viewed in a sexual context doesn’t mean they aren’t sexual.
And I agree that women shouldn’t be criminalized for showing their breasts. In my country, they can be topless anywhere men can be.
Thank you for your comment. I again apologize for posting twice and I only did so because I wasn’t sure my first comment was posted. It’s okay for breasts, or men’s chests, to be sexual during sex itself. Anything can be sexualized during sex, even the pinky toe. I just don’t believe women’s breasts should always be constantly sexualized so much that a view of breasts automatically turns men into horn dogs, nor should a casual breast be criminalized if seen. I thank God for countries in the world that don’t criminalize a the view of a women’s chest at any given beach and men don’t overreact to them. I appreciate your comment.
Honestly I have no problem seeing a women’s chest the same way as a man’s chest. That’s my opinion and I stand by it. It shouldn’t take any pleasure away from anything. That’s just what I believe, I don’t judge anyone for feeling a bit different as long as I get the same respect.
Breasts are everybody’s obsession.Men and women alike. I know. I got teased about it by former sister in laws and former mother in law for being more busty than them. That was the one thing they made of was my breast sizes.Cathy
I know I am late to the party here but wow. I am a bit shocked at the responses you got to your description of your wives breasts and that you’d prefer them because you have access to them. I didn’t see the negative in your comment at all. Pragmatic maybe but not negative. Besides part of loving someone is loving someone regardless of the effects that time has on both partner’s bodies. Let’s face it men are just as apt to having issues with aging as women but I don’t think we’d thrown them out with the bathwater because of it. I don’t know about other wives but I am loving how our bodies are changing together. So why are we assuming that only women are aging in this process? Part of being in a loving committed relationship is watching each other change over time. Besides looks are so ephemeral that I don’t want to think that that is the only thing that my husband is only attracted to my looks. I recently asked why and he indicated that I am fairly easy going, don’t get rattled over little things and that I am confident. I see my boobs as being affected by the ravages of time and gravity (they are & euphemisms cant change that it just is) but he sees them as a part of me that he loves and as his “home” for lack of a better word. But I also know that if I did have to have a mastectomy that it would not change how he feels about me. Jay Dee I actually got what you were saying and found it funny. But maybe I just might be spinning on a different axis than most women. Not sure…
Thanks Jo 🙂
God created breasts in order to prove that men can actually focus on two things at one time.
Wow, these comments! It’s easy to flip your compliment onto yourself to see if it’s flattering or not. I think my husband would be rightly weirded out if I said I love his penis because it’s accessible! LOL. I have said my favourite thing about it is that it’s all mine, that’s far more personal. I don’t think I would couple my compliments with comparisons to the past or love it even though I would have made it bigger.
You also forgot a 3rd thing. The human female is also the only member of the mammalian species who has full breasts even when NOT pregnant. Every female mammalian animal only has full breasts after giving birth, and then when done lactating the breasts dry up and almost disappear. God blessed us humans with the female species maintaining full breasts all the time. Where would us guys be if’n our wives breasts did that and after pregnancy they dried up and were just two flaps of saggy skin like the female monkey. I wouldn’t even want to think about it. So we have one more reason to celebrate our wives and their breasts just based on that one fact alone.