SWM019: How long does a sexual awakening take?

Mar 09, 2016 by Jay Dee in Podcast

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Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change. However, just because there is often a single instant where this realization becomes clear, it can take time, sometimes years or decades, to actually change their behaviour.

Sexual awakenings are often triggered by something external, a blog post, a podcast episode, a book, course, or conversation
However, patterns of behavior, like saying “no”, avoiding sex, limiting activities, those can take a long time to change
Focus on “progress, not perfection”
It doesn’t need to be instant, it just needs to be in the right direction
At least momentum is being built in the right direction, but it can take a long time to shed all the moment in the opposite direction