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SWM 060 – Aug 2020 Questions – Negative Self-Talk, Affairs, Manual Sex Troubles and more

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Topics include:
Negative Self-Talk
Sex and Midnight Prayer
Is it okay to ask God for a spouse who enjoys anal sex?
How to deal with jealousy
Sex isn’t special after the wife had an affair
Did Jesus ever get married?
Is it wrong to have sex in the same room as another couple?
Is it okay to leave my wife because she can’t have sex?
Should anything go in the bedroom?
Trouble with manual sex
How to keep intimacy alive without sex

What’s the best way to initiate sex?

For the last month or so, we’ve had a survey open about how you prefer to have your spouse initiate sex. If you never got a chance, you can fill it out here. I do sometimes delve into old surveys to answer new questions, so

SWM 059 – Anonymous Questions from June and July 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Answering questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.
Topics include:
Wife keeps falling asleep during sex
Is it possible for women to orgasm without cumming?
Wife wants bigger toys
How do I handle my wife screaming at me?
Clone-a-willy
Blowjobs make me nauseous
Do men who take ED meds tell their wives?
Why should single people abstain from sex?
Insecurity about penis size
Why do I look at men’s crotches?
Husband is constantly sexual
Is prostate stimulation wrong?

SWM 058 – Anonymous Questions from May 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Topics include:
Husband is in jail
Husband masturbates all the time
Husband won’t quit porn
Should Christians avoid Tantric Sex?
Premature Ejaculation
Bondage Resources
Jock Itch
Wife is not interested in sex
Husband not interested in sex with wife
Being “too loose” after children
When to disclose a masturbation & porn addiction when dating

SWM 057 – Anonymous Questions – April 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Topics Include:
How to get more intimate nights with my wife
Can I have sex with my ex-husband?
Does my husband want kinky sex?
Is it okay to want more passionate sex?
What happens when you die? – what about Lazarus and the Rich man?
Why does my wife suddenly want daily sex?
Is it okay for my wife to flash me?
Wife thinks it’s sinful to touch herself during sex

Last minute gift ideas for Father’s Day

Anyone else feel like Father’s Day sort of sneaked up on them? I mean, Mother’s Day seems to have a lot of ads, I feel like there was lots of warning.  But Father’s Day?​  I mean, I get flyers to the hardware store to buy power

SWM 056 – How To Feel Connected During Sex

What does it mean to feel “connected” during sex. For many spouses, when their husband or wife says “I don’t feel connected during sex”, they get quite confused. They’re thinking “I am literally inside of you/you are literally inside of me, how can we be MORE connected?!”

But of course, they’re not talking about a physical connection, but rather an emotional, mental or spiritual connection.

SWM 055 – Anonymous Questions from March 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Topics include:
Is fingering fornication?
Is it wrong to fulfill my wife’s fantasy of having a gang-bang?
How to tell my husband sex is bad when he drinks?
Husband’s penis keeps falling out during sex
Wife doesn’t want to dress up for me

SWM 054 – Anonymous Questions – February 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from February 2020.

Topics include:
How can I become more comfortable masturbating?
Why wouldn’t he use lube?
How to have “team sex” (not what you think)
Husband can’t be emotionally intimate or trust me
Meta discussion about piercings
How do I start to fix my marriage?
Becoming more sexually engaged