Data-driven answers about married Christian sexuality since 2012
Most advice about sex in Christian marriage is one person's opinion. Ours rests on original surveys of over 1,000 married Christians at a time, 662 published articles, and Scripture, taught frankly and without shame.
And if it is a question you cannot ask anyone else, you are in the right place.
Jay Dee · Christian Marriage Coach
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Our latest findings · From the May 2026 reader survey
Of the 1,058 married Christians we surveyed in May, 83% are satisfied with their relationship overall, but only 57% are satisfied with their sex life. The marriage is fine. The bedroom is where the silence lives.
Closing that gap, with data, Scripture, and honest conversation, is the whole reason this ministry exists.
Share of respondents answering "satisfied," May 2026
The 26 points between those two bars is the space this site works in.
Reader survey, May 2026. 1,058 married Christians.
Husbands "very satisfied" with sex, by whether they hide masturbation from their wife
Same men, same marriages. The ones who bring it into the open report far more satisfaction than the ones who keep it hidden.
Reader survey, March 2026. 724 married men.
14 years of work, organized into four doors. All of it frank, tasteful, and grounded in Scripture and survey data.
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662 articles answering the questions couples are afraid to ask out loud.
Top shelves: Physical Intimacy (259), Marriage (75), Sex Drive (52), Communication (37)
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157 episodes of honest, biblical conversation about sex in marriage.
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A coaching client, describing the silence he brought to his first session
Few couples wait twenty-five years. But nearly every couple has something they have never managed to say out loud, and that is exactly where coaching begins.
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