Today we have a question from a reader asking about using a vibrator in bed next to her husband after sex (when he’s fallen asleep): Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm next to hubby after he
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5 ways to stop stress from killing your sex life
Stress has a huge impact on our sex lives. It changes everything from the initial desire to have sex, through to arousal and ultimately the ability to orgasm. For most people, sex negatively impacts all these things. So, one of my readers wants to know,
Sex drive differences aren’t the problem
Most couples face a conflict in terms of mismatched sex drives. The majority in fact, my marriage included. This leads some people to believe that their sex drive, or the sex drive of their spouse, is the issue. But it’s not. It’s just a conflict,
Why do we keep having the same argument?
Do you ever feel like you just keep having the same argument, discussion or conflict over and over again? Perhaps it comes up every week, every month, or every year. It might just be something small and seemingly insignificant, or it might be something larger
Does the missionary position make sex holy?
Is the missionary position really the only acceptable one? Where did this come from and do we really need to worry about it?
Are you willing to risk sex to gain intimacy?
Friday night is typically sex night for us. It’s not guaranteed, but it’s something we look forward to. You know, kick off Sabbath with some rest from the world and enjoy each other’s safeness, if that makes sense. Last night it didn’t happen though. It
Why can’t I be happy with myself
Friday night, Jay challenged me to say “I’m happy with the progress I’ve made” out loud, to myself. Would you have a hard time saying that out loud? Even to yourself? I did. It was incredibly difficult. It took a conversation that lasted a couple
Why marriage ruins sex
Sometimes it can seem like marriage ruins sex. After getting married, many people notice that sex becomes routine, boring and just not that exciting. Yes, the spouses with the stronger drive will still have a strong desire for sex, but it’s often not the same as
Never use absolute accusations
Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”. These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why: 1. It’s not fair fighting
Divorce is contagious
I heard something the other day while listening to a talk by Jenna McCarthy. Divorce is contagious! And the first thing I thought was “What? That’s ridiculous!” But it turns out that having close friends who get divorced increases your own chance of divorce by
5 reasons your marriage isn’t growing
Over the years, I’ve noticed a trend. Those marriages that are healthy can handle growing even more, but there are many marriages, especially Christian ones, where they remain locked in the status quo. They know it could be better, but they lack the skills, characteristics