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What happens when you die?

Question from a reader:
So, I was listening to one of your podcasts, I don’t remember which one but you were talking about souls and what happens after death. You said that nothing happens after death until Jesus comes back. But I want to know what you think about the story Jesus tells in Luke 6:19-31, it’s the story of the rich man and the beggar. After the beggar Lazarus dies, he was carried away in Abraham’s bosom. According to this story, when you die, your soul goes paradise (I believe).

SWM 053 – Anonymous Questions – December 2019 & January 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020

Topics Include:
Gang bang fantasy
How to make sex not feel like an obligation
How to get past sebacks during foreplay
Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm
A warning about “Boundaries” and how to mitigate the damage it can cause
Long term effects of using a vibrator

SWM 052 – Are Dominance/Submission Games in the Bedroom OK?

Are Dominance_Submission Games in the bedroom OK_

A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?

SWM 051 – Anonymous Questions – October & November 2019 – Types of orgasms, sleeping during sex & more

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Answering reader’s questions about:
Other types of orgasms
How to deal with a transgendered friend?
Is crossdressing for comfort wrong?
How to deal with an unrepentant husband?
Orgasmless sex (on purpose)
Wife sleeping during sex
Husband won’t come to bed at a decent time
What if you medically can’t have sex?
How do you switch from being single and chaste to married and sexual?

Black Friday 2019 Resources for your Marriage

Well, the year is almost done. In the US, people celebrating Thanksgiving, Christmas is around the corner, and that means Black Friday and Cyber Monday are upon us yet again. So, I thought I’d let my readers know about a few things out there for

SWM 050 – Anonymous Questions from September 2019 – Deployed Spouses, Passive Sex Partners, Sleep Apnea and How to Boost Attraction for your Spouse

Anonymous Questions from our readers

In this episode, we’re tackling the subjects:

  • How do you deal with deployment and sex drives
  • How do we improve sexual intimacy
  • How to improve our sex life
  • Satisfaction and adventurousness
  • How do you get your wife to be more dominant in bed
  • Asking doesn’t work, not asking doesn’t work
  • Husband has sleep apnea
  • What should teenagers do instead of masturbate?

SWM 049 – Focus on your spouse, not the model

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what sort of sex drive you have, because it can change. Focus more on your spouse, and less on fitting them into a box. That way, if things change, you can adjust to the changes, rather that be stuck on a model that doesn’t match your dynamic anymore.

Intimacy Advent Calendar is updated and available

Intimacy Advent Calendar - Give your spouse an intimate gift this Christmas season!

Our Intimacy Advent Calendar is back and better than ever! Looking for a unique and sexy gift for your spouse this Christmas? This might be it.

With 100 different activities to choose from, you can give your spouse a gift they’re sure to remember. While everyone else is stressed out during the holidays, they’ll be wondering how you two manage to stay so loving and caring.