Milestone reached and something for our readers!

This Sunday we hit a pretty incredible milestone: One Million Views.  Of course, if you know anything about blogging and/or websites, you know that a “view” or “hit” doesn’t equal someone reading.  Google’s best estimate places the number of people who have read our blog at about 120,000, and that’s still…well, just crazy.

We also recently hit 1,000 Fans on our Facebook page, 1,500 Followers on our Twitter feed, 400 Followers on our Google+ page, and 700 email subscribers.  In short, we’ve got a lot of milestones to celebrate.

As well, I’ve been working, over the last year, to look for ways to help you, our readers, and so I have two announcements to make:

I’ve started writing a book

Believe it or not, it’s not about sex…at least not exclusively.  My hope is that it will be sort of a guide to help those of you in marriages where your spouse has no interest in improving your relationship.  It’s nowhere near complete…but it’s started, I estimate I’m about 1/20th of the way done the first draft.  I’m hoping to release it before the end of next year, so stay tuned.

I’ve launched a coaching practice

Or rather, I’ve launched a second coaching practice.  I already have one under my “real name”, but as many of you know, I write under a pseudonym here on the blog.  But this coaching service is going to be different.  A bit of a twist to meet the specific needs of this community:

1. I know a lot of your obstacles revolve around sexuality, and not every marriage coach, pastor, or mentor is prepared, or comfortable dealing with sexual topics
2. Because of the taboo nature of some of these discussions, I believe the majority of you want to remain anonymous, because it can be intimidating to talk to someone in person about sex, even if they aren’t uncomfortable themselves

So, I’ve launched Anonymous Marriage Coaching to help those of you who are struggling in some aspect of your marriage, and are looking for someone who can lend another perspective, who can ask challenging questions, who help you develop a plan to move forward and help keep you accountable to your own goals and plans.  If you don’t know what the difference between Marriage Coaching and Marriage Counseling are, check out the website for a brief explanation.  If you have other questions, there is an FAQ page, or, of course, you can email me directly and ask.

I read so many of your comments, emails, questions and survey responses and desperately want to help in some way.  Unfortunately, I know the short interactions answering an email, writing a post in response to a question, or posting survey data aren’t enough to produce lasting results in many cases.  A structured coaching relationship can extend these interactions and encase them in a format that allows for a higher potential of generating positive change in you and your marriage.

As well, you have the added benefit of being able to evaluate whether our views are compatible or not, as you can read nearly 150,000 words about my views (on marriage, sexuality, theology, communication, conflict resolution, etc.) before even contacting me.

In all honesty, the coaching website has been up for weeks, lying dormant.  I’ve struggled with announcing it, because I don’t want this blog to become a commercial endeavor.  It is first, and foremost, a ministry.  That said, as much as I would love to give our coaching for free to everyone, it does take a fair bit of time, both during interactions, and prepping for them.  So, consider this my “tent making” (Acts 18:1-3), and forgive me if I, from time to time. remind or point people to a service I believe might help them.