Dealing with differing sex drives in marriage

Nearly all marriages have to deal with different sex drives between spouses at some point. Sometimes it’s right from the start. Others don’t have an issue until a few years in. Some couples start to experience a disparity in interest after kids. Still others it changes around menopause or as his testosterone starts depleting. And it’s not always the same. While stereotypically it’s the husband with the higher sex drive, in 25-33% of marriages, the wife wants more sex than the husband. It can change throughout the marriage as well.

So, how do you deal with this? Here are a few posts and resources on the topic:

Where did my sex drive go? – Free ebook that includes discussions on responsive vs spontaneous desire and how to work with it
Sex drive differences aren’t the problem
What do couples do when one wants sex and the other doesn’t?
What have we done to women’s sex drives?
Trapped gatekeepers – blame the guard, not the prisoner
Why marriage ruins sex
Are you the gatekeeper of sex?

If you still have questions or are struggling in your marriage after implementing those ideas, then contact us to ask a question, or get coaching.