Does the source of an idea determine whether or not it’s good? Let’s say you had a prior porn addiction and you saw something you want to try with your spouse, does that make it now sinful? Here’s a question I received a while ago that I’m going to address today.
Category Archives: Sexual Sin & Temptation
Are you sabotaging your sex life like I do?
I’ve spent the last few years trying to get better insight into the mind of a spouse who desires less sex. Why? Because I’m married to one, and one of my goals in life is to make her feel known and loved. Unfortunately, the more
Anonymous Questions – April 19, 2018
We only received one anonymous question in the last few weeks, which I discussed in our mailing list. I’m posting my response here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read it, but also so people can start a discussion
Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?
A couple of weeks ago, I received this question on our anonymous questions page: My husband wants to occasionally dress as a woman, including makeup, wig, etc. He insists there is no sex or “turn on” with it. Early in our marriage he was open
Trapped gatekeepers – blame the guard, not the prisoner
In some marriages, the spouse with the lower sex drive simply decides their perspective is the most important and ends up being the gatekeeper of sex. That is, they decide when sex is, what sort of sex there is, and generally it’s given out fairly
Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?
Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with. I know I have in the past. To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my wife drunk so we can
Is it okay to masturbate next to my spouse if they’re asleep?
Today we have a question from a reader asking about using a vibrator in bed next to her husband after sex (when he’s fallen asleep): Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm next to hubby after he
Have you prepared your kids for the first time they will see porn?
Your children will watch porn. Does that thought terrify you? It did for me the first time I thought it. And before you think, “No, I can keep them from it”, I’m sad to say you can’t. Not in this world that they’re growing up
How do you stop sinful behaviours? – Part 2
Last week I wrote a post about how to stop sinful behaviours. In truth, I only gave half the answer. I wrote about recognizing how wretched we are and continuously dying to self. I focused on that because as Christians, we tend to skip that
How do you stop sinful behaviours?
I get a lot of comments and questions from people asking “How do I stop sinful behaviour?” and it’s a difficult question to answer. Whether you’re trying to quit porn, yelling at your kids, or overeating, it’s really the same issue. Our sinful nature is
Is it sinful for widows to masturbate?
How do you answer the question of whether or not it’s okay for widows to masturbate? Well, I got asked this very question back in August and I’ll admit, I’ve been hesitant to answer it. Here’s the comment from our Are sex toys allowed in