Yesterday I wrote against using fantasy while having sex. In it I promised that I’d write a post on how to be more mindful during sex. Here are thirteen ways that you can be more present during sex. I hope it will help you adjust
Often people are confused about how their reactions to things change when their aroused vs not aroused. Here’s an example from our anonymous questions page: My wife loves anal stimulation with a finger or two during oral. But when I go anywhere near otherwise, I
Yesterday I was writing about some orgasm facts. And my last one. Which I wanted to split into a separate post, is that orgasm does not equal pleasure. Unfortunately our media keeps telling us differently. Cosmo covers are full of orgasm tips, positions for better
Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal. More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong. This myth has been around for quite some
Stress isn’t a bad thing. It’s not. It is designed for a purpose: to give us the best survival chance in a dangerous situation. Evolutionists would say this is a holdover from evolutionary ancestors. I believe that God created humans to be able to survive
I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex. I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much. So, I thought I’d take a second to try
Alright, today we’re going to talk a bit about the dual control model of sexual arousal. I think people probably know this inherently, but sometimes it’s good to put things on paper, as it were, to make them clear. So, the dual control model of
Yesterday I promised I’d write a post on desire vs. willingness, because, again, this is a topic I’ve mentioned many times, but never devoted a post to. Our society teaches us that we shouldn’t have sex unless we desire it. In movies, both of the
Yesterday I wrote about arousal non-concordance and how sometimes our body’s arousal doesn’t match up with our mind’s arousal. How it can be that your mind might want sex, but your body isn’t ready. Or the opposite can happen. Unfortunately, this confuses a lot of women
I heard a new term this week and I’m really excited about it, because it’s a concept I’ve known about for a long time, but I’ve not seen many people write about it. I also didn’t know what to call it. I like having labels,
I received this question last month through our anonymous Have A Question page: I feel like my wife is teasing me sexually. I more days that not, in fact I’d say 5 or 6 days a week she does things that arouse me. I don’t