Category Archives: Physical Intimacy


What is sex?

Paul over at The Generous Husband recently wrote a post entitled Defining Sex and it got me thinking.  Now, he was looking for a straight, all purpose definition of sex.  But, I don’t think we can use that.  Actually, I wish he had separate works to define

The relationship is more important than the “rules”

Recently I was talking with someone about Christianity.  She had grown up in a legalistic church environment where one must perform certain actions, dress a certain way, fit a certain mold, speak using specific terms in order to be considered “saved”. In Christianity, we have

How do you get over the gross factor?

This question came in over a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: My husband would like me to massage his prostate. There is a gross factor for me but I love him and  would love to make him happy! How do I

Is gatekeeping dishonouring God?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: My husband and I have been married for 4 years. For the past 3, I’ve not wanted to have as much sex as him. Is my not wanting to, a

Is resentment ruining your marriage?

Resentment is a dangerous feeling. I see it in marriages nearly every day. A spouse has done something years ago, and it was never dealt with, or never adequately resolved. Perhaps there was no apology, or maybe no forgiveness given. Either way, resentment grows. There

Men and orgasms vs ejaculation

Two days ago, I received this question from our Have A Question page: Hi Jay Dee, my question is how to tell if my hubby has had an orgasm is it the same as him ejaculating and if not what is the difference?  Thank you

Why do I cry after sex?

Right after my post on why some women find their legs shake after orgasm, I received this question: I am a 50 year old women. This year I have started crying after having an orgasm. Nothing is wrong at all it’s like a physical response.

What have we done to women’s sex drives?

Those of you who read my blog posts, or have heard me speak, might have heard me drop my belief that the Bible was written with the assumption that women had the higher sex drive, or at least were evenly matched. Now, in our culture, this