Category Archives: Physical Intimacy


Is Mutual Masturbation OK for Married Christians?

I’ve written about solo masturbation fairly extensively in previous posts, but I haven’t touched on the subject of shared, or mutual masturbation yet.  Two weeks ago, in my Going to Bed Naked Survey Results post, Chris Tian asked if I would write about this topic, because

Should Christians Mix Alcohol and Sex?

A couple of days ago, I was asked this question through our anonymous Have A Question? page.    This couple was considering adding alcohol to their bedroom activities, and asked what the pros and cons might be.  Now, I should disclose and say that I’m one

Going to bed naked survey results

Last week we wrote a post about going to bed naked, how it could improve your frequency of sex.  I’ll be honest, it was a hypothesis.  I had only a data-set of one marriage to go on (my own).  So, I thought I’d add a

Why do some wives like their hair pulled?

This is a question that confuses some husbands, and some wives as well, including those who like their hair pulled.  They wonder why they like it.  They didn’t like it growing up when their siblings pulled their hair, and in any other circumstance it’s not

Oral Sex Survey Results

Here are the final results of the oral sex survey I eluded to in my post Is it okay NOT to swallow. If you don’t want to read through all the stats, you can jump to my summary at the bottom. Total Respondents 136 (52

Is masturbation a sin?

This has been an ongoing discussion/disagreement between Paul Byerly and I for just over a year now.  I have a great respect for Paul, and enjoy our game of theological tennis, even if we don’t see eye to eye on a few topics.  It all started with

Are sex toys allowed in a Christian marriage?

Christian couples have a lot of questions about what is and isn’t allowed in the marriage bed.  One of them is whether or not sex toys are allowed.  Can we use sex toys?  Should we use sex toys?  There are different opinions on this, but,

Is sexual sin worse than other kinds of sin?

This post is basically my response to a Twitter conversation, if it can be called that, which occurred yesterday. I saw this tweet: JimEKey: GOD SAYS #sex outside of #marriage is SIN, OF THE WORST KIND, IT IS SIN AGAINST THE BODY, MEANT TO BE THE TEMPLE OF

Reasons Not To Have Sex Survey Results

This was a simple little survey that I created, originally to answer a simple question:  do husbands and wife’s agree on whether or not the choice to not have sex on a given night is mutual.  This question was raised due to a comment on

Is my spouse attracted to me?

I wrote a survey this weekend to help out with a post and answer a question from a reader: Was their spouse attracted to them?  So many people commented, both in the survey, on Facebook, message boards, in emails, comments, etc., that they wanted to see the

Does my husband still find me attractive?

Yesterday morning (4 am my time), I received an anonymous question from a new reader.  She’s had a, shall we say, colourful life, but now has settled down, has become a Christian, has a husband and is growing in Christ.  But, while we are all

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