Category Archives: Physical Intimacy


Why you shouldn’t ask for God to take away your sex drive

Over the years, I’ve heard many people, men and women, say that they wish God would take away their sex drive.  In our darkest days of marriage, I did the same myself. These days, I’m glad God didn’t grant me that wish.  More recently, this

Is your marriage an oasis?

This post is mostly me thinking aloud.  I’m exploring a thought, something I’ve noticed in my own marriage and others.  Many marriage experts, counselors, therapists, etc. will tell you that people need time to decompress between work and home life.  They need time to shift

What can you do with a sexually unadventurous spouse?

Here’s another question I received from our Have A Question page: My wife isn’t very adventurous. What can I do to respect her wishes to be less adventurous? What can I do to help her become more adventurous? It’s really two questions, isn’t it, but

Overcoming guilt from an affair

This week I received a question, as I often do, through our Have A Question page.  However, this time the one asking asked not to share the whole question as she didn’t want anyone to guess the identities of the people in question.  So, I’m

Can you have oral sex after intercourse?

I received this question a few days ago through our Have A Question page: I like going down on my wife after we finish having sex. Is there any issues with this? Now, there’s a very short, simple answer to this: No.  There are no issues.

How do I build trust in him again?

I received this question from our Have A Question page this weekend: My husband and I have been married almost a year. About 4 months ago he came home from work and started to look up a porn site. He hadn’t done this since we

Can my wife get addicted to sex toys?

I received an email last night with this question: I’ve often wanted to use some sex toys in our relationship to just have fun experimenting.  To mix it up a little. I worry though that my wife will need this type of stimulation all the time

Helping to support our ministry survey (with giveaway!)

I’ve been encouraged by the response from our 2016 goals post.  One such response was from one of our readers who drafted a survey to help plan future methods of reaching more people.  So, I tweaked it a bit and built a proper survey out of

God is a healer, not a doctor

I often hear Christians claiming that God will fix their illness, or fix their marriage, or fix one aspect of their life, and I think too often we approach God as a doctor, not as a healer.  When we experience symptoms, we go to a

Is feeling disrespected an excuse to refuse sex?

Sometimes I get questions on our Have a Question page and I have to guess at what’s being asked, since I don’t have any contact info to follow up with. Here’s a message I received yesterday: my taking no interest in sex now a days