We hear all the time from Christian bloggers about the dangers of reading erotica. A quick search found no less than a dozen posts on the topic. However, I couldn’t find a single one (besides my own) on writing erotica from a Christian perspective. Going
Category Archives: Sex
If initiating sex is uncomfortable, start with initiating precursors
A lot of spouses are not comfortable initiating sex. It might be that you have a fear of rejection, or that your upbringing makes you uncomfortable being sexual, or any other reason. In our Becoming more sexually engaged course, we challenge wives to start initiating
Is it okay to masturbate next to my spouse if they’re asleep?
Today we have a question from a reader asking about using a vibrator in bed next to her husband after sex (when he’s fallen asleep): Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm next to hubby after he
5 ways to stop stress from killing your sex life
Stress has a huge impact on our sex lives. It changes everything from the initial desire to have sex, through to arousal and ultimately the ability to orgasm. For most people, sex negatively impacts all these things. So, one of my readers wants to know,
Sex drive differences aren’t the problem
Most couples face a conflict in terms of mismatched sex drives. The majority in fact, my marriage included. This leads some people to believe that their sex drive, or the sex drive of their spouse, is the issue. But it’s not. It’s just a conflict,
Does the missionary position make sex holy?
Is the missionary position really the only acceptable one? Where did this come from and do we really need to worry about it?
Are you willing to risk sex to gain intimacy?
Friday night is typically sex night for us. It’s not guaranteed, but it’s something we look forward to. You know, kick off Sabbath with some rest from the world and enjoy each other’s safeness, if that makes sense. Last night it didn’t happen though. It
Why can’t I be happy with myself
Friday night, Jay challenged me to say “I’m happy with the progress I’ve made” out loud, to myself. Would you have a hard time saying that out loud? Even to yourself? I did. It was incredibly difficult. It took a conversation that lasted a couple
Why marriage ruins sex
Sometimes it can seem like marriage ruins sex. After getting married, many people notice that sex becomes routine, boring and just not that exciting. Yes, the spouses with the stronger drive will still have a strong desire for sex, but it’s often not the same as
6 ways to ensure you have a terrible sex life
If you haven’t heard yet, I’m planning to run a webinar in the near future. If you have a preference on the topic, you should fill out this form to vote. Currently, the topic people want to hear about most is how to have a
Talking about sex survey
I was going to write a post today about talking about sex with your spouse, but I want to get some data first. So, let’s see how many responses we can get in the next week. You can fill out the survey here to share your