I received this anonymous question last night through our Have A Question page. I have more than have been there longer, and I intend to answer them, but today I don’t have much time, so I picked it because I thought…
I received this question last week through our anonymous Have A Question page: I am a 32 year old mom of three little ones, with a pretty good sex drive (2-6a week) but my husband has much higher than me.…
I received a question about a week ago regarding personal grooming, and in the question they stated: [My wife] claims that NO ONE does that every week, month or more than once or twice a year… For those of you…
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Often men see sex as a reward, even when it’s not intended for one. Conversely, if they don’t have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something. Why is this? I think there are three reasons.
I’ve been thinking about fitness lately. More specifically, I’ve been frustrated by my lack of fitness lately. For those who are long time readers, this is an ongoing frustration. I’ve been technically obese my entire adult life, and while I…
Back in February, I got a message from Sarah and Jeff Harris (actually the email was from Jeff) telling me they loved my blog (yay!), and that they had written a book “Do It Better – Twelve Sexual Routines and Principles…
Last week, I posted an anonymous question where someone asked how many wives actually like giving oral sex. In the comments, people wanted to know how many husbands actually like giving oral sex. So, I guess this isn’t technically considered…
Update, August 2026 The numbers in this post come from our 2013 oral sex survey. In 2026 we re-ran the question as part of a much bigger survey, 1,058 complete responses, and the finding held: a large share of wives…
Here’s a question I received a couple of weeks ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I’m interested in adding toys to our intimate repertoire. However, one of the issues which keeps me reluctant to do so is the…
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I didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our…
I have a few questions in my inbox from our Have A Question page this week, but I wanted to tackle this one that came in last night. I am trying to be a good Christian in my marriage but…