Why you don’t have that “I want to rip your clothes off” feeling anymore. In this post/podcast episode, I tackle the question of what causes that feeling, and the neuro-chemicals involved.
SWM 067 – Infatuation, New Relationship Energy, and Love
Category Archives: Sex
What’s the best way to initiate sex?
For the last month or so, we’ve had a survey open about how you prefer to have your spouse initiate sex. If you never got a chance, you can fill it out here. I do sometimes delve into old surveys to answer new questions, so
What do couples do when one wants sex and the other doesn’t?
The difference in sexual desire between a husband and a wife is one of those universal conflicts. I think just about every marriage deals with it at some point. If yours hasn’t yet – well congratulations newlyweds! Just because it’s a conflict though doesn’t mean
Last minute gift ideas for Father’s Day
Anyone else feel like Father’s Day sort of sneaked up on them? I mean, Mother’s Day seems to have a lot of ads, I feel like there was lots of warning. But Father’s Day? I mean, I get flyers to the hardware store to buy power
SWM 056 – How To Feel Connected During Sex
What does it mean to feel “connected” during sex. For many spouses, when their husband or wife says “I don’t feel connected during sex”, they get quite confused. They’re thinking “I am literally inside of you/you are literally inside of me, how can we be MORE connected?!”
But of course, they’re not talking about a physical connection, but rather an emotional, mental or spiritual connection.
SWM 052 – Are Dominance/Submission Games in the Bedroom OK?
A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?
SWM 049 – Focus on your spouse, not the model
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what sort of sex drive you have, because it can change. Focus more on your spouse, and less on fitting them into a box. That way, if things change, you can adjust to the changes, rather that be stuck on a model that doesn’t match your dynamic anymore.
SWM 047 – Spontaneous desire is a blessing
Ever feel like having a high sex drive is a burden? Have you wondered why God made you this way? Here are some of the reasons I think having spontaneous desire is a blessing.
SWM 046 – Responsive desire is a blessing
Responsive desire isn’t an abnormality, disability or curse. It’s a blessing. Once you learn to work with it, it can actually lead to an amazing sex life.
September Kegel/Squat Challenge
Well, summer is nearly over. Here in Canada, this is our last long weekend until Thanksgiving in October, so our family is going camping and while we’re there, my wife is running a Spartan Beast – 21 km (13 mile) obstacle course (her new hobby/obsession).
Is it wrong for Christians to be Circumcised?
A few weeks ago, I received a question through our Have a Question page. Normally I would just answer them in our monthly questions round up, like this one, but this question had so much history to go through and it’s so polarizing in Christian