Category Archives: Sex


Is resentment ruining your marriage?

Resentment is a dangerous feeling. I see it in marriages nearly every day. A spouse has done something years ago, and it was never dealt with, or never adequately resolved. Perhaps there was no apology, or maybe no forgiveness given. Either way, resentment grows. There

Men and orgasms vs ejaculation

Two days ago, I received this question from our Have A Question page: Hi Jay Dee, my question is how to tell if my hubby has had an orgasm is it the same as him ejaculating and if not what is the difference?  Thank you

Why do I cry after sex?

Right after my post on why some women find their legs shake after orgasm, I received this question: I am a 50 year old women. This year I have started crying after having an orgasm. Nothing is wrong at all it’s like a physical response.

Why do some women shake when they orgasm?

Why do some women shake when they orgasm?

I had asked on Facebook if anyone had any questions about sex and/or marriage since I hadn’t gotten an anonymous question in a couple of weeks. Then one of my regular readers and participator sent me this question (among others): Why the shakes and spasms

What have we done to women’s sex drives?

Those of you who read my blog posts, or have heard me speak, might have heard me drop my belief that the Bible was written with the assumption that women had the higher sex drive, or at least were evenly matched. Now, in our culture, this

Why you shouldn’t ask for God to take away your sex drive

Over the years, I’ve heard many people, men and women, say that they wish God would take away their sex drive.  In our darkest days of marriage, I did the same myself. These days, I’m glad God didn’t grant me that wish.  More recently, this

Is your marriage an oasis?

This post is mostly me thinking aloud.  I’m exploring a thought, something I’ve noticed in my own marriage and others.  Many marriage experts, counselors, therapists, etc. will tell you that people need time to decompress between work and home life.  They need time to shift