Category Archives: Sex


Homosexuality and Christians: How Do We Respond?

I’ve been avoiding this topic for quite some time.  4+ years of blogging about sex, and I’ve barely mentioned the issue of homosexuality.  Why have I been avoiding it?  Well, to be honest, I wanted to flesh out my own beliefs.  My own denomination has

How can I make him taste better?

I received this question a couple of days ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I love giving my husband oral, but I find his semen to be very bitter. It’s actually very difficult to not gag at the taste. I thought I was

What if I want a chance to orgasm?

I received this question yesterday morning from our anonymous Have A Question page: Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasim next to hubby after he has fallen asleep after sex? He does give me orgasims during sex

Can Christian couples swing?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page a few days ago: Can we swap  wives  for sex (intercourse) in a marriage? We are told that there is a website on christian “swinging” (wife swapping). How  christian  is this in a christian

What’s the difference between making love and having sex?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page a couple of days ago: Making love vs. having sex, what is the difference? What does this look like practically in the context of a Christian marriage? From what I have read, having sex

How do I get my wife to be more sexually active?

I received this question through our anonymous Have A Question page this weekend: My wife really wants to come out of her shell, but she doesn’t know how. Can you recommend any ‘tools’ which she can use to flourish in these things (eg. Dressing up,

What is sex?

Paul over at The Generous Husband recently wrote a post entitled Defining Sex and it got me thinking.  Now, he was looking for a straight, all purpose definition of sex.  But, I don’t think we can use that.  Actually, I wish he had separate works to define

The relationship is more important than the “rules”

Recently I was talking with someone about Christianity.  She had grown up in a legalistic church environment where one must perform certain actions, dress a certain way, fit a certain mold, speak using specific terms in order to be considered “saved”. In Christianity, we have

How do you get over the gross factor?

This question came in over a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: My husband would like me to massage his prostate. There is a gross factor for me but I love him and  would love to make him happy! How do I

Is gatekeeping dishonouring God?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: My husband and I have been married for 4 years. For the past 3, I’ve not wanted to have as much sex as him. Is my not wanting to, a