My wife and I were talking about people’s responses to yesterday’s post. Our conversation let to what initiation was. We had just had sex, and I mentioned that I had initiated that encounter. Initially she disagreed saying “I came to bed naked”. I countered saying
I get a lot of emails from spouses. I get to read about a lot of marriages in those emails. I get to read about how spouses react, how they think, their struggles, their concerns, their hopes, their fears. One of the big struggles I
When I was in school for software engineering, we had a lot of acronyms that floated around. One of the was GIGO. Garbage In – Garbage Out. The point was that we always had to validate what the user put into a computer program, because
I received this anonymous question from our Have A Question page back in a couple of months ago. I’m married for 29 years. I love being with my husband sexually but why do I always have to remind him slow and soft during foreplay. You
Some days I miss porn. Isn’t that sick? It’s true though. And I think a lot of people who have quit porn miss it from time to time. Same goes for masturbating. And often the two are tied together, but they aren’t always. There are
It’s true. We live in a world full of fake people. We watch them, we compare ourselves to them, we judge ourselves by their standard. But they’re all fake. I’m talking about our social media friends. Our social networks of fans, followers and peeps. We
I have a reader (who I won’t out, because I didn’t ask if I could), often sends me emails with questions related to married, Christian sexuality. I love getting them, because, thinking about this stuff and sharing it is one of my passions (thus this
There are a lot of the times that we do the devils work for him. We repeat his lies, we carry his messages, we relay his orders. I think this happens a lot more than we realize, and I think we need to be more
For a lot of us, fear is holding back our sex lives. I know we don’t like to admit it, but it is. We usually like to blame it on our busy schedules, on low energy, on a spouse who has a lower sex drive
I get a fair bit of email from the blog. Some days it comes in like a flood. Other days it’s more like a trickle. I’ll be honest, I like the flood days better. I like helping people. I like seeing people reach out to
Intimacy is risky. No, I don’t mean like having sex outdoors, I mean actual intimacy, even if it’s not physical. Because true intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability is … well, being vulnerable. And unfortunately, the more intimate we are, the more vulnerable we are, and