Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental. In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us having sex in public, I
Often people are confused about how their brain works. In this case, how it works in real life situations compared to when they are fantasizing. Using fantasy, whether it be erotic stories, porn, or just a daydream, they can get all aroused easily. They orgasm
Sorry if the title’s a bit crude. Couldn’t find anything that fit better. I’ve received a bunch of questions over the years about testicles. Here’s the most recent one: Do most men like having their balls played with? My husband and I are recently married
It’s Thanksgiving this weekend here in Canada, that means hanging out with the family. Yesterday we had a chance to go up north to cottage country and help my in-laws get ready for maple syrup season. We spent two days cutting up trees, splitting and
Often people are confused about how their reactions to things change when their aroused vs not aroused. Here’s an example from our anonymous questions page: My wife loves anal stimulation with a finger or two during oral. But when I go anywhere near otherwise, I
There seems to be a big struggle, with men in particular, around looking at other women. I don’t just mean porn, but just walking down the street, in the store, or anywhere else. Of course, some women struggle with this as well, but I’ll be
Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader. Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as well. Sometimes it’s a retaliation,
Yesterday I was writing about some orgasm facts. And my last one. Which I wanted to split into a separate post, is that orgasm does not equal pleasure. Unfortunately our media keeps telling us differently. Cosmo covers are full of orgasm tips, positions for better
Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal. More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong. This myth has been around for quite some
Stress isn’t a bad thing. It’s not. It is designed for a purpose: to give us the best survival chance in a dangerous situation. Evolutionists would say this is a holdover from evolutionary ancestors. I believe that God created humans to be able to survive
I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex. I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much. So, I thought I’d take a second to try