Sometimes we make assumptions about the couples around us. Sometimes they make assumptions about us. I remember when were still in our sexless phase, we managed to have two kids. We seem to be a very fertile couple. Now, don’t get me wrong, that’s a
Category Archives: Keeping Sex Fun
Last minute sexy Christmas gifts
I had someone ask about sexy Christmas gifts they can get their spouse. So, here’s a very quick run through of some things that I think you could still manage to get by Christmas. 1. Books ($10 and under) Amazon will let you know if
How can I encourage my spouse to do something new sexually?
I regularly have someone ask me how they can encourage their spouse to do something new sexually. For example, here’s a question from our Have A Question page: How can a husband encourage his wife to deep throat and swallow his semen without seaming demanding or better
13 ways to be more present during sex
Yesterday I wrote against using fantasy while having sex. In it I promised that I’d write a post on how to be more mindful during sex. Here are thirteen ways that you can be more present during sex. I hope it will help you adjust
Is it okay to fantasize about your spouse?
Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental. In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us having sex in public, I
Do men like having their balls played with?
Sorry if the title’s a bit crude. Couldn’t find anything that fit better. I’ve received a bunch of questions over the years about testicles. Here’s the most recent one: Do most men like having their balls played with? My husband and I are recently married
Orgasm does not equal pleasure
Yesterday I was writing about some orgasm facts. And my last one. Which I wanted to split into a separate post, is that orgasm does not equal pleasure. Unfortunately our media keeps telling us differently. Cosmo covers are full of orgasm tips, positions for better
Simultaneous orgasms are rare
Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal. More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong. This myth has been around for quite some
Relief is not the same as enjoyment
I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex. I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much. So, I thought I’d take a second to try
Can’t keep his penis in while trying other positions
I received this question yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page I really don’t think you have tacked this before as I have looked, but my question is about different sex positions. My husband and I have been married for 10 years and the
Is sex work?
Is sex work for you? What about your spouse? Do you know? Now, for me, the answer is a hands down “No”. I mean, I work hard during sex, and my muscles get tired, I get sweaty and I’m very focused … but I would