Category Archives: Communication

Are you initiating conversations for the wrong reasons?

Are you initiating conversations for the wrong reasons?

Why do you initiate conversations in your marriage?  Chances are they’re for the wrong reasons.  I know mine were for years.  Still are half the time to be honest. I’m not talking about the “Who is going to pick up the kids” conversations.  This isn’t

Talking about sex - survey results

Talking about sex survey results

Probably the number one piece of advice I hand out to people is “talk to your spouse about it”.  It’s amazing how often that simple answer makes huge changes in marriage. But, I wanted to know how much of a difference talking about sex makes.

Why do we keep having the same argument?

Why do we keep having the same argument?

Do you ever feel like you just keep having the same argument, discussion or conflict over and over again? Perhaps it comes up every week, every month, or every year.  It might just be something small and seemingly insignificant, or it might be something larger

Never use absolute accusations

Never use absolute accusations

Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”.  These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why: 1. It’s not fair fighting

Christian Sex Surveys

Talking about sex survey

I was going to write a post today about talking about sex with your spouse, but I want to get some data first.  So, let’s see how many responses we can get in the next week. You can fill out the survey here to share your

How to survive a growth season in your marriage

How to survive a growth season in your marriage

If you’ve been married for a few years, you probably know that marriages have seasons. Some are fun, some are exciting.  Some are amazing and intense.  Some are a bit dull.  When you’re just slogging through life, and some are a bit more oppressive than

How do I open up to my spouse sexually?

How do I open up to my spouse sexually?

Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage.  I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse

How to have a conversation

How to have a conversation

Do you know how to have a conversation?  Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t. I mean, we grow up talking to people every day, but still, there are many adults who never really progress beyond the conversational skill of a 3-year-old.  Sure, their vocabulary increases

Being more skilled at initiation

I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled.  From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of marriages would be a substantial

What to say when your wife tells you about her day

What to say when your wife tells you about her day

It’s often difficult for men to listen to their wife talk about her day.  For many men, it’s not something they naturally feel the need to do. Men tend to more easily compartmentalize their life.  When they come home, they want a chance to switch

A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed

A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed

Ever had what you thought was the plan fall apart because your spouse didn’t know that was the plan?  Or vice-versa?  I have!  And I don’t think I’m alone, especially after reading this comment yesterday: My wife and I are on different planets as far