Category Archives: Faith

Does the missionary position make sex holy?

During the Middle Ages, the church was very open about sex.  In fact, they seemed to be more open to talking about it than we generally are today. The Church on sex during the Middle Ages The problem is, their main focus was on preventing

Why can't I be happy with myself-

Why can’t I be happy with myself

Friday night, Jay challenged me to say “I’m happy with the progress I’ve made” out loud, to myself.  Would you have a hard time saying that out loud? Even to yourself?  I did. It was incredibly difficult. It took a conversation that lasted a couple

I'll never be good enough

I’ll never be good enough

When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship.  We had sex more often, and it was more varied.  We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion

Your relationship has to be based on more than just sex

Your relationship has to be based on more than just sex

I was talking with Keelie from LoveHopeAdventure.com today and we got into a conversation about intimacy.  In particular, about intimacy while dating.  It ended up being a good discussion, and so I thought I’d share what I shared with her because this affects not only couples

What if we took spiritual warfare seriously?

What if we took spiritual warfare seriously?

This post isn’t about marriage directly.  It’s something that a few things (sermon, conversations) have led me to over the course of a Sabbath.  To me, it was … something big.  Maybe it will be for you. Maybe not.  Either way, I’m writing it here mostly

Do you feel like a sexual object or a sexual being?

Do you feel like a sexual being, or a sexual object?

I’m trying to process something I was thinking about on my commute home today.  It has to do with this verse: The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not

How do you stop sinful behaviours- Part 2

How do you stop sinful behaviours? – Part 2

Last week I wrote a post about how to stop sinful behaviours.  In truth, I only gave half the answer. I wrote about recognizing how wretched we are and continuously dying to self.  I focused on that because as Christians, we tend to skip that

How do you stop sinful behaviours?

How do you stop sinful behaviours?

I get a lot of comments and questions from people asking “How do I stop sinful behaviour?” and it’s a difficult question to answer.  Whether you’re trying to quit porn, yelling at your kids, or overeating, it’s really the same issue.  Our sinful nature is

Don't say yuck about food, or "I hate my body"

Don’t say yuck about food (Don’t say “I hate my body”)

We have a rule in our house.  You don’t say “yuck” about food.  We created this rule for our children, because with five of them, invariably one of them isn’t interested in what we made for supper.  You put the food down, and they push

Should I listen to my husband or God?

Should I listen to my husband or God?

This morning I was listening to someone answer this question from one of their readers: What does a wife do when her conviction regarding a spiritual principle is different than her husbands?  For example, I have a conviction that we should be tithing. For a while

How do you deal with a spouse who isn't acting like a Christian?

What do you do with a spouse who isn’t acting like a Christian?

In the comments on posts, and in my inbox, I often hear people lamenting that their spouse isn’t acting like a Christian.  It could be they never apologize, or they watch porn without remorse.  It could be they masturbate instead of having sex with their