So my husband and I have been married for about 8 months now. It seems like every time he gives me oral sex, I end up orgasming within just a few minutes. Now, as great as orgasming is, I feel like after I orgasm so quickly, I am not as stimulated by penetration. Also, I really enjoy oral sex and I wish the experience could last longer. My husband and I waited until marriage to have sex. But before I was following Christ and before I met my husband, I was sexually active, including oral sex, and this never happened. So my questions are: 1) is this normal? is “premature ejaculation” a thing in women? 2) are there any ways to fix this and/or last longer? and 3) in women, if you orgasm once, is there a “come down” period? How is it possible to have multiple orgasms in one “sex session”?
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SWM 079 – September 2021 Questions – Guarding fantasies, low libido, not wanting sex, pain during sex and more
In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Wanting your wife to have sex with other men
How to handle a spouse who doesn’t want to have sex
What is healthy sexuality for single people?
Does God intend for you to be a virgin if you don’t get married?
Dealing with the loss of a wife
Can men continue to have sex after orgasm?
Should you do Our Sexploration List while aroused or not?
Pain during sex
Are men turned off by prolapses?
How to build stamina
Are topless and nude photos the same as porn?
Sex Noises Survey Results
We were looking for information on the types of noises people make during sex, but we came across an interesting data point – are men more caring lovers than women?
SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more
Topics Include:
Snoopy wife caught husband
Is orgasming the same as cumming?
Is OMGYes okay?
Ejaculate colour & consistency
Encouraging senior sex
Wife won’t “finish” oral sex
Wife searched for porn
Birth control for Christians
Wife’s smell
What sexual behaviour is prohibited
Zoloft and PE update
Multiple wives – again
SWM 077 – July 2021 Questions – Dealing with PCOS, fantasizing about your fiancee and more
Topics Include:
How do I hide my BDSM toys when I live at home with my parents?
Does God value boys more than girls based on Leviticus 12:2-5?
How do you handle the hormones from PCOS when you have a low-drive husband?
Is it okay to fantasize about my fiancee?
SWM 076 – June 2021 Questions – Boring sex lives, ED and PE troubles and breast play
Topics Include:
How to improve a boring sex life
Why only ED during sex?
Meds for Premature Ejaculation
Risky public sex
Should I talk to my doctor if I have ED?
Fantasizing about premarital sex
Turned on by my wife urinating
Wife with no interest in sex
Is breastplay required for a good marriage?
SWM 075 – May 2021 Questions – How we look at sex, refractory periods, asking about orgasms and more
In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
How we look at sex
Why we have refractory periods
Whether or not it’s common for a husband to have to ask his wife if she had an orgasm
A husband who is secretly purchasing toys
A widow who wants to know what happened to her husband who was cremated
SWM 074 – Apr 2021 Questions – Friends who grope, postpartum recovery, anxious husbands and more
Topics Include:
Friends touching me inappropriately
Postpartum recovery from the husband’s perspective
Husband is anxious about sex
Not attracted to my husband anymore
Husband doesn’t like oral sex
How to get over husband’s porn use
Narcissistic husband and adulterous wife
Is a sexual activity wrong if it was learned from a sinful source?
Does the source of an idea determine whether or not it’s good? Let’s say you had a prior porn addiction and you saw something you want to try with your spouse, does that make it now sinful? Here’s a question I received a while ago that I’m going to address today.
SWM 072 – Mar 2021 Questions – Should humans be non-monogamous and more
Topics include:
Is any part of porn okay?
Is it unreasonable to expect sex after oral?
Are humans meant to be non-monogamous?
Is it okay to teach kids to masturbate safely?
Wife doesn’t enjoy sex, but says she wants to be promiscuous
SWM 071 – Is it okay for Christians to have sexual fantasies?
Are sexual fantasies okay for Christians? Does it matter what the fantasy is? If it’s only in your mind, does that make it okay?