Topics include:
Does my wife know what I’m doing to her?
I want to share orgasms with my husband
What are your thoughts on BDSM?
Is bondage a problem for me?
Wife doesn’t like direct clitoral stimulation
How do I hold my wife accountable?
All posts by Jay Dee
SWM 101 – Why does my spouse always push for more during sex?
Answering this question:
Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn’t enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the F WORD. How do I get him to be grateful for what I do instead of needing more? I always feel inadequate.
SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism
My daughter’s speech that the judges decided they couldn’t let win because of the topic, but went on to districts despite them.
SWM 099 – Spouse fell asleep, revealing clothes, public sex, dreams and encouraging your spouse to be healthier
Topics include:
Spouse falls asleep during romantic getaway
Husband wants her to wear revealing clothes
Public sex
Are we responsible for our dreams?
How to encourage your spouse to be healthier
SWM 098 – Energy, mutual masturbation, orgasm struggles, desire type quiz and meeting other couples
Topics include:
Where does the energy come from?
Mutual masturbation
Sharing fantasies and machines
Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming
Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz
Why do married men masturbate?
How do you meet other people?
Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?
SWM 097 – Location, bruises, God’s role vs my role, how to stop faking orgasms, where do I get my “garbage theology”
Topics include:
Where are you?
How to hide bruises
What role do I have in God changing my heart?
Mother of 3 young kids isn’t as interested in sex as husband
How to recover from faking orgasms?
Husband wants to be pursued
Where do you get your garbage theology?
SWM 096 – Why men being submissive is problematic
A post in response to this question:
Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can’t be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don’t want to ask my wife because it’s an awkward topic.
SWM 095 – Faking orgasms, diapers, wet and messy/humiliation fetishes, does oral sex equal love, pre-orgasmic wife and more
Topics Include:
Coming clean about faking orgasms
Wanting wife to wear a diaper
Wet and messy / humiliation fetish
Is oral sex a measure of love?
Married and lonely
Chastity play
Sex outdoors
Pre-orgasmic wife
SWM 094 – Who is more righteous?
A reader poses a question:
There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or whatever you want to call it), saves sex for marriage, only courts/dates Christians, but never finds a spouse and ends up as a 40-year-old childless virgin.
Who was the more righteous of the two?
SWM 093 – Crossdressing, counseling not working, should I share fantasies, facial hair, Viagra for women and many more
Topics include:
Crossdressing
Counseling not fixing her sex drive
Should I keep fantasies to myself?
Husband addicted to porn
Wife has no sex drive
FaceTime sex
Spouse’s facial and body hair
Does Viagra work for women?
How do I stop her from seeing me as submissive?
No sex due to pregnancy complications
Wife struggles with overeating
How do I stop masturbating?
Anal fisting
SWM 092 – How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm
A reader asked:
If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn’t orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children…I would say our sex life isn’t dry but we aren’t all that creative. There have been things that I have suggested doing and have tried but she has told me that they make her uncomfortable (things like me using my hands to pleasure her or go down on her). I think there may be something connected to past experiences with masturbation and the guilt that came with that as a teen…but I have taken the position of wanting to serve and honor her so I haven’t pushed it. So, for the past 13 years, we have kind of been doing the same thing once every other week or so. A part of me wonders if the lack of desire on her part is because she hasn’t ever really had an orgasm…but that raises the other question of how are we to know? Kind of a silly question I guess, but something I have been pondering while listening to your podcast. Thanks.