All posts by Jay Dee

Erotic Literature Survey

This survey was actually sent to me by a reader.  We’ve talked about porn in the past, but not much about erotic literature.  So, he was curious about the prevalence of erotic literature reading in Christian marriages.  I tweaked it a bit (with his permission),

Shame vs Embarrassment

This week a very good friend of mine, sent me an email with the subject “Found a great blog”, and the body of the email was just a link to this blog and the words “What do you think?” In case you didn’t catch that…my friend

When do I give up hope?

A question that comes up often in my talks with spouses is “When do I give up hope?”  After all, if divorce isn’t an option and you can’t make your spouse do anything, what are the chances that they’re just going to “come around” and be

Who should initiate sex, husband, or wife?

I was asked this question recently over Twitter, so it’s not quite anonymous, but well, it was easier to stick with the same graphic.  Plus, I didn’t ask if the questioner wanted to be attributed, so I thought it best to keep it this way.

What 2015 has in store for us

Last week, WordPress sent me my annual “year in review” email.  The results are here if you care to see them.  It’s funny, last year I had planned to post every Wednesday, and that shows…for 4 months.  Then it sort of fell apart and I

Making New Years’ Resolutions Stick

Well, it’s that time of year again, when people start making resolutions.  “This year’s going to be different” you say!  But what are you doing to ensure it’s different.  What makes you more likely to attain your resolutions this year? Well, I thought I would offer some

Milestone reached and something for our readers!

This Sunday we hit a pretty incredible milestone: One Million Views.  Of course, if you know anything about blogging and/or websites, you know that a “view” or “hit” doesn’t equal someone reading.  Google’s best estimate places the number of people who have read our blog

Why do I have to fix our marriage?

I think a lot of spouses have this question.  Whether the relationship is lacking in quantity or quality of sex, communication skills, budgeting, or whatever.  Typically there is one spouse that is more “high drive” in that area.  They want to push this aspect of

Condoms for permanent birth control?

I’m afraid I received this email from our Have A Question page nearly a week ago, so I’m a bit late in answering it.  The questions are: I have 2 questions. The first is, Is it normal or okay to use condoms because neither spouse wants

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