All posts by Jay Dee

Survey on prayer and sex

After our first week’s marriage challenge, I got some really encouraging feedback from spouses saying that their marriage had found a new level of intimacy, that they’re feeling more connected, that their spouses are being more considerate, more loving. So, I’m curious just how much

A year of marriage challenges

Monogamy doesn’t need to result in monotony.  I firmly believe that, even if the world tries to tell us otherwise.  Too often we see in movies, hear from comedians, and even from other Christians, that marriage gets stale after decades of being with one sexual

Don’t put your hope in magic pills

It’s been an interesting experience, having a vasectomy.  Not only the procedure and the process, but also people’s reactions.  Most of the reactions include some promise like “Just wait to see what it does to your sex life”, “When you recover, you can have sex

How to rebuild trust when it’s been broken?

I was talking with someone the other day and issue of dealing with broken trust came up.  Now, they weren’t talking about marriage, but I think our conversation had some points that can definitely be applied to marriage.  After all, marriages often have broken trust.  Lies,

What would be on your pre-vasectomy wishlist?

My vasectomy is scheduled for tomorrow.  That’s a little intimidating to write, to be honest.  Because even after all the encouraging comments I read in our permanent birth control survey responses, and even after all the research I’ve done, and knowing how low the failure

Sexual Side Effects of Medication

Another question that came in through our “Have A Question” page.  This is specifically about SSRI’s, but I think it’s applicable to just about any medication as I kept it generic enough to apply to a larger group of people. I think I need a

Sex can be silly

I was talking with someone the other day who was struggling with the idea that sex can be fun and silly and a laughable situation.  I may be mistaken, but it seemed she never realized that it’s okay to laugh about and during sex.  So,

It’s not just about sex

My wife left me and took the kids to her parents house.  So I’m a bachelor again, in an empty house to myself, doing what I want, when I want.  It’s very odd going from being a husband and father of 5 to being “single”

Is it okay to role-play a rape scenario?

I’m playing catch up on some previous questions.  This one came in more than a month ago, and I’m afraid I’ve been a little slow to answer: My wife and I are both Christian Faith and have a question about a fantasy we both have.