Jay Dee, Author at Uncovering Intimacy

What have we done to women’s sex drives?

Those of you who read my blog posts, or have heard me speak, might have heard me drop my belief that the Bible was written with the assumption that women had the higher sex drive, or at least were evenly matched. Now, in our culture, this

SWM014: Your sex life has far reaching implications

Learn how to give a sensual massage for Valentine’s Day

I’ve written about the benefits of massaging my wife in past posts, like “Why don’t I give my wife more massages” and “Are you ready for Mother’s Day“. We also saw from our survey on wives orgasm experiences that a lot of spouses suggested giving a

Dealing with low testosterone and other sexual struggles later in life

Last night, in the chat room after our webinar, I was asked about dealing with sexual struggles that occur later in life, and I didn’t have a whole lot to offer, because I haven’t really written on the topic yet. Also, I’m only 34, so

Why you shouldn’t ask for God to take away your sex drive

Over the years, I’ve heard many people, men and women, say that they wish God would take away their sex drive. In our darkest days of marriage, I did the same myself. These days, I’m glad God didn’t grant me that wish. More recently, this

SWM013: Morning Sex

Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single

There were some people who were … let’s say disgruntled … by my podcast episode last week where I shared my views on solo masturbation. Many argued that there’s no reason single people can’t masturbate. So, I thought I’d write a post in response and

Is your marriage an oasis?

This post is mostly me thinking aloud. I’m exploring a thought, something I’ve noticed in my own marriage and others. Many marriage experts, counselors, therapists, etc. will tell you that people need time to decompress between work and home life. They need time to shift