The topic of sex within marriage within the Christian community is an oddity. The reactions to bringing up the topic are quite varied: embarrassment, shame, fear, anger, interest, inquisitiveness, looking for help, looking to share a burden, wanting to know their normal. Often many of
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How can I make him taste better?
I received this question a couple of days ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I love giving my husband oral, but I find his semen to be very bitter. It’s actually very difficult to not gag at the taste. I thought I was
What if I want a chance to orgasm?
I received this question yesterday morning from our anonymous Have A Question page: Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasim next to hubby after he has fallen asleep after sex? He does give me orgasims during sex
SWM019: How long does a sexual awakening take?
Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | Android | iHeartRadio | Podchaser | Email | TuneIn | Deezer | RSS | MoreSexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing
How do I introduce new activities into our married sex life?
I received this question yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page: My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. I tried to give her oral sex once when we were first married and she stopped me before I could actually preform
Can Christian couples swing?
I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page a few days ago: Can we swap wives for sex (intercourse) in a marriage? We are told that there is a website on christian “swinging” (wife swapping). How christian is this in a christian
What’s the difference between making love and having sex?
I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page a couple of days ago: Making love vs. having sex, what is the difference? What does this look like practically in the context of a Christian marriage? From what I have read, having sex
SWM018: Judaism had it right all along
Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | Android | iHeartRadio | Podchaser | Email | TuneIn | Deezer | RSS | MoreLet’s face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like
How do I get my wife to be more sexually active?
I received this question through our anonymous Have A Question page this weekend: My wife really wants to come out of her shell, but she doesn’t know how. Can you recommend any ‘tools’ which she can use to flourish in these things (eg. Dressing up,
What is sex?
Paul over at The Generous Husband recently wrote a post entitled Defining Sex and it got me thinking. Now, he was looking for a straight, all purpose definition of sex. But, I don’t think we can use that. Actually, I wish he had separate works to define
The relationship is more important than the “rules”
Recently I was talking with someone about Christianity. She had grown up in a legalistic church environment where one must perform certain actions, dress a certain way, fit a certain mold, speak using specific terms in order to be considered “saved”. In Christianity, we have