All posts by Jay Dee

Can Christians Pursue Sexual Pleasure?

I have a reader (who I won’t out, because I didn’t ask if I could), often sends me emails with questions related to married, Christian sexuality.  I love getting them, because, thinking about this stuff and sharing it is one…

Don’t do the devil’s work for him

There are a lot of the times that we do the devils work for him.  We repeat his lies, we carry his messages, we relay his orders.  I think this happens a lot more than we realize, and I think…

Fear is holding back your sex life

For a lot of us, fear is holding back our sex lives.  I know we don’t like to admit it, but it is.  We usually like to blame it on our busy schedules, on low energy, on a spouse who…

Intimacy is Risky

Intimacy is risky.  No, I don’t mean like having sex outdoors, I mean actual intimacy, even if it’s not physical.  Because true intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability is … well, being vulnerable.  And unfortunately, the more intimate we are, the…

How do I deal with an abusive spouse?

I received this question almost a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: When we first got together my husband was a reasonable lover in that he seemed to care about my needs somewhat. He quickly turned into…

How do you get a marriage annulment?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: My wife and I are committed Christians, but have not yet been able to go all the way in our marriage. I believe that I…

Can you have sex during your period?

We’re currently running a survey on period sex (if you haven’t filled it out, please do so), and the responses have been fascinating.  It’s fun to skim through the comments people have written to see the wide variety of opinions and…

Period Sex Survey

A while ago, I received a question about sex during menstruation from our anonymous Have A Question page: How many couples have sex while the wife is on her period? My husband and I have been married for almost 8…

Do you need to have regular date nights?

One of the most common pieces of advice I hear from the marriage community is to have a regular weekly, or at worst, monthly, date night.  A regular night where you get out of the house and spent time together…