All posts by Jay Dee

How to stop looking at other women

There seems to be a big struggle, with men in particular, around looking at other women.  I don’t just mean porn, but just walking down the street, in the store, or anywhere else.  Of course, some women struggle with this as well, but I’ll be

How to move past hurt

I often deal with spouses who have trouble forgiving their husband or wife for some hurt they caused.  Sometimes it’s big, like an affair.  Sometimes it’s not quite as monumental, like being late somewhere. Large or small issue, often spouses have trouble getting part these

Your spouse’ sin doesn’t counterbalance yours

Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader.  Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as well.  Sometimes it’s a retaliation,

Orgasm does not equal pleasure

Yesterday I was writing about some orgasm facts. And my last one. Which I wanted to split into a separate post, is that orgasm does not equal pleasure. Unfortunately our media keeps telling us differently.  Cosmo covers are full of orgasm tips, positions for better

Simultaneous orgasms are rare

Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal.  More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong.  This myth has been around for quite some

Marriage and social shaming

My family and I are away for the weekend for my baby sister’s wedding.  Last night was the rehearsal and my other sister asked “So, is your speech ready?”  Well, this was the first I’d heard of a speech, so naturally I said it wasn’t.

Stress is bad for sex

Stress isn’t a bad thing.  It’s not.  It is designed for a purpose: to give us the best survival chance in a dangerous situation.  Evolutionists would say this is a holdover from evolutionary ancestors.  I believe that God created humans to be able to survive

Relief is not the same as enjoyment

I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex.  I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much.  So, I thought I’d take a second to try

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