I’ve written a lot about different ways to spice up your sex life. Those of you who have been reading a while know I tend to prefer conversations that spark understanding and long-term growth over short-term gimmicks. However, I have been known to write posts
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Trapped gatekeepers – blame the guard, not the prisoner
In some marriages, the spouse with the lower sex drive simply decides their perspective is the most important and ends up being the gatekeeper of sex. That is, they decide when sex is, what sort of sex there is, and generally it’s given out fairly
February Squat Challenge
From time to time, I like to run month-long challenges. Some of you joined us for our DietBet game, and even more for our Kegel challenge. This month, we’re going to be doing squats. Why do a squat challenge? Well, squats have a lot of
Taking Advantage of Valentine’s Day
If you’ve been reading here a while, you know, I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. That said, I’m perfectly okay with taking advantage of the season when it works in my favour. I will NOT buy roses at 2x-3x the price, but I
Is it okay to engage in pegging in marriage
Are you a Christian who is curious about pegging? Or perhaps your spouse brought it up. In this post, we tackle the moral questions as well as trying to understand why someone might want to do this.
Drop “should” from your vocabulary this year
“Should” is a dangerous word that gets used far too often. Now, I’m sure there are some appropriate times where it can be used, but often we don’t use it appropriately. Often we use “should” where it’s actually harmful to what our goals are. And,
The best way to discuss sexual fantasies
Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting. I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never want to open up again.
Simultaneous Orgasms Survey
A few weeks back, we were discussing simultaneous orgasms in our Facebook group and we got to talking about what’s “normal”. Of course, when people ask about what is normal, they’re generally wondering if they’re weird or not. But they also often want to know
How to be present during sex
Do you find you get distracted during sex? Have trouble staying in the moment? Here are 8 steps with tips to stay focused and in the moment in bed.
Sex, clothing and lighting survey results
A few months ago (back in August), I started running a survey asking about couple’s habits regarding sex, clothing, lighting and a few other things. I’ve had some random questions lately from people asking if lingerie makes a difference, or if having sex with the
Black Friday deals to spice up your marriage!
Well, it’s Thanksgiving in the US … you know, because they’re trying to catch up with us Canadians who had Thanksgiving last month 🙂 Of course, with the American Thanksgiving comes Black Friday and some crazy deals. So, I thought I’d write a quick post