Category Archives: Marriage

Sex drive differences aren’t the problem

Sex drive differences aren't the problem

Most couples face a conflict in terms of mismatched sex drives. The majority in fact, my marriage included.  This leads some people to believe that their sex drive, or the sex drive of their spouse, is the issue.  But it’s not.  It’s just a conflict,

Why do we keep having the same argument?

Why do we keep having the same argument?

Do you ever feel like you just keep having the same argument, discussion or conflict over and over again? Perhaps it comes up every week, every month, or every year.  It might just be something small and seemingly insignificant, or it might be something larger

Are you willing to risk sex to gain intimacy-

Are you willing to risk sex to gain intimacy?

Friday night is typically sex night for us.  It’s not guaranteed, but it’s something we look forward to. You know, kick off Sabbath with some rest from the world and enjoy each other’s safeness, if that makes sense. Last night it didn’t happen though.  It

Never use absolute accusations

Never use absolute accusations

Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”.  These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why: 1. It’s not fair fighting

Divorce is contagious

I heard something the other day while listening to a talk by Jenna McCarthy.  Divorce is contagious!  And the first thing I thought was “What?  That’s ridiculous!” But it turns out that having close friends who get divorced increases your own chance of divorce by

5 reasons your marriage isn’t growing

Over the years, I’ve noticed a trend.  Those marriages that are healthy can handle growing even more, but there are many marriages, especially Christian ones, where they remain locked in the status quo.  They know it could be better, but they lack the skills, characteristics

Christian Sex Surveys

Talking about sex survey

I was going to write a post today about talking about sex with your spouse, but I want to get some data first.  So, let’s see how many responses we can get in the next week. You can fill out the survey here to share your

How to survive a growth season in your marriage

How to survive a growth season in your marriage

If you’ve been married for a few years, you probably know that marriages have seasons. Some are fun, some are exciting.  Some are amazing and intense.  Some are a bit dull.  When you’re just slogging through life, and some are a bit more oppressive than

Sex is not icing on the cake

Sex is not icing on the cake, it’s the eggs in the cake

There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the cake.”  Or some variant of

I'll never be good enough

I’ll never be good enough

When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship.  We had sex more often, and it was more varied.  We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion

Sex Within Marriage Podcast - UncoveringIntimacy.com

SWM030 – Credentials, sex and sickness, falling out of love, self control and how to start leading

Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so.  This episode I talk about my credentials,