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8 ways to respond to your spouse sharing how they're feeling

8 ways to respond to your spouse sharing how they’re feeling (only one is good)

A little while ago, I wrote a post on how to have a conversation, because, well, we don’t get taught that in school, or growing up any longer.  At least, not if most people’s behaviour is any indication. Today I thought I’d write

Why it's important to talk about sex

Why it’s important to talk about sex

Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex.  Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just sex that isn’t. 

A Day of Sex

A day of sex

We tried something recently that I thought I’d share, because it might interest some of you.  Warning: If you’re currently in a marriage where your spouse is actively gate-keeping or refusing sex, don’t read this.  It will just irritate you. I was listening

How do you do kegel exercises?

How do you do kegel exercises?

My regular readers should know by now that we’re doing a 30-day kegel exercise challenge, and today is day 1!  Now, if you want to participate in the group, you should join it on Facebook here. I thought I’d write a quick post

Who wants to join a 30 day kegel exercise challenge?

Who wants to join a 30 day kegel exercise challenge?

Do you know what kegel exercises are?  Alright, if you do, you can skip the next paragraph.  If not, listen up. Your kegel muscles are basically your pelvic floor muscles.  They’re heavily involved in anything bathroom or bedroom related (waste expulsion, orgasm, etc.). 

The one thing that will make you better in bed

The one thing that will make you better in bed

Many spouses want to learn to be a better lover.  You may think it takes knowledge about techniques, tricks and hidden tips about sex, or that it takes a perfect body, able to last hours of pleasurable motion, but the truth is that

Are you preparing your life for ministry?

Are you preparing your life for ministry?

This weekend my family and I were camping up north at a Christian family camp.  Cold weekend.  Dropped to three degrees Celsius the first night (that’s 37.4 degrees Fahrenheit for my American readers).  A bit chilly for a tent.  But, we survived. Now,

Stop telling men to be self-sacrificing

Stop telling men to be self-sacrificing

I’m getting sick and tired of hearing references to Ephesians 5:25.  It seems every time I turn around, some other person, be it a man or a woman, is quoting it.  In case you don’t know it off the top of your head.

What can you do if your wife is too ticklish for oral sex?

What can you do if your wife is too ticklish for oral sex?

You know what I love about being a Christian marriage educator?  Helping people by answering questions they don’t feel they can ask anywhere else.  Giving them a safe place to ask it and doing my best to make them feel like they’re not

Sex, clothing & lights survey

As my long time readers know, we have long standing practice of running surveys.  In fact, we have quite the list going from surveys done over the years: Some “rough” sex statistics Is my spouse attracted to me? Reasons not to have sex