Monthly Archives: September 2016

Your spouse’ sin doesn’t counterbalance yours

Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader.  Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as well.  Sometimes it’s

Orgasm does not equal pleasure

Yesterday I was writing about some orgasm facts. And my last one. Which I wanted to split into a separate post, is that orgasm does not equal pleasure. Unfortunately our media keeps telling us differently.  Cosmo covers are full of orgasm tips, positions

Simultaneous orgasms are rare

Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal.  More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong.  This myth has been around

Why I’m never going to write another post on SexWithinMarriage.com

Well, it’s the end of an era, at least for me. Nearly 5 years ago, I started a little, unknown blog called Sex Within Marriage. In the first month, I think only about 100 people read it. This month I just broke a

A year of marriage challenges – Completed?

Can you believe the year of marriage challenges is over?  I hardly can.  So, I bet a lot of people are wondering “What’s next?” and some more want to know “Where can I get a list of all the challenges?”

Marriage and social shaming

My family and I are away for the weekend for my baby sister’s wedding.  Last night was the rehearsal and my other sister asked “So, is your speech ready?”  Well, this was the first I’d heard of a speech, so naturally I said

Stress is bad for sex

Stress isn’t a bad thing.  It’s not.  It is designed for a purpose: to give us the best survival chance in a dangerous situation.  Evolutionists would say this is a holdover from evolutionary ancestors.  I believe that God created humans to be able

Relief is not the same as enjoyment

I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex.  I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much.  So, I thought I’d take a second

An update on our situation

So, I sat down to write a post this morning on my morning commute, as it my habit, and just couldn’t get into anything.  The truth is, I’m pre-occupied.  So, I thought I’d write a little post just to share what’s going on

Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex

This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments.  But, no one is talking